How Dads Can Get Involved During the Confinement Period
The transition into the role of a father with the arrival of a newborn might be a challenging one. Combined with the need to adapt, assist, or provide additional care for Mommy, things can get chaotic. To help ease things a little bit, we’ve identified a few points so that you won’t lose your head while running on minimal sleep. Take notes!
Run errands and do the shopping
One of the first things you’ll need to do is get your newborn registered at Jabatan Pendaftaran, which should be done within 60 days after birth.
After that, there may be other smaller errands you’ll need to run for the household, such as shopping for baby essentials like milk and diapers.
Since your wife won’t be able to leave home or the confinement centre where she’s staying, it will be up to you to make sure everything is adequate.
Be the support system for your wife
The confinement period can be an emotionally and mentally challenging time for a new mother as her body’s hormones are readjusting itself to pre-pregnancy levels.
Symptoms can include mood swings and postpartum blues, which is why having someone significant to talk to is important. Keep your channels of communication open and lookout for signs that your wife may need professional support during this time.
Making decisions together
During confinement, there are many key decisions that you’ll have to jointly make with your wife regarding your child. Remember to always discuss things before making a decision.
These decisions can be as small as which brand of milk powder to feed your baby, to larger decisions about finances and personal career moves. Remember that both of you are in this together and therefore neither spouse should me bulldozing ahead alone.
Taking turns caring for the baby
As a Dad, it’s really important to start bonding with your newborn as soon as possible. You can do this by starting on simple tasks, such as learning to make milk and bottle feeding your baby, calming your child down when he or she is crying or taking over during nappy changing sessions.
If you’re new to these tasks, the in-house nurses at Mommy Mansion would be more than happy to guide you and ensure that you get the hang of things.
Tending to the visitors
New mums may not always feel up for it when visitors come by, even if they’re extended family members or close friends. You have to be sensitive to your wife’s needs and not push her to greet guests, especially during confinement.
At times, you’ll have to be the one to talk to guests and allow your wife space she needs to rest and recover. At other times, you’ll have to turn guests down outright as the timing just isn’t right especially during the current Covid-19 MCO. Remember that mothers don’t just need physical rest after giving birth; they need mental and emotional rest too.
Fathers may feel left out of the pregnancy and childbirth process, but this doesn’t have to be the case. As long as you make a conscious effort to be present, your family will always feel and know you’re there for them and that you care.